Sex Isn't All We Think About...

   It goes without saying that there are many misconceptions and stereotypes our partners, wives, and girlfriends have when it comes to men.  Mainly, sex is all we think about, we never really just want to "talk," and if we aren't getting it from you that we are getting it elsewhere.  Let me be the first to say that these ideas are FALSE.  Do not get me wrong for every stereotype that exists there are always people to manifest them.  Otherwise there would have been no stigma to begin with.  However, through TV, magazines, news papers and many other social outlets it seems these misconceptions are targeted and in many ways glorified.  Especially on reality television.  This negative attention paints an all to real scenario many women begin to believe validate there fears and misunderstanding in their relationship.

   I believe myself to be sexually in tune and consistent in my relationships.  Never have my partner and I been disappointed with my libido.  However, I have run into the problem of a false sense of insecurity from my partner. Women must understand if we come home from a long day of work, take a nice shower and decide to call it an early night, perhaps skipping out on what usually is an all night "hump fest" doesn't mean we aren't interested.  It means we are just tired, that's it.  The same, "babe, not tonight I am tired," we get is exactly the same thing.  All to often women believe men are ready to go like a loaded pistol and burst out the barrel with the pull of the trigger.  Not to say we aren't, but we have our off nights too.  Most guys, normal guys, will have these experiences.  Many times this tends to raise alarm for their partners.  They will find themselves questioning their sexual prowess, drive themselves crazy trying to alter or fix physical attributes they feel aren't attractive.  Jealousy may start to consume them because they feel perhaps there man is getting his fix with other chicks.  Everyone knows jealousy in the middle of a relationship, will, for he most part destroy any chance of progress.

   Although men will have there off nights, consistent neglect of sexual activity may be something to look into.  Here is why.  It isn't because they are in fact cheating or unsatisfied with you.  If you investigated you would find 8 out of 10 guys are probably suffering emotionally them self.  Causing their libido to suffer at the cost of stress and anxiety.  Most men won't admit it.  Being such egotistical creatures lack of success and accomplishment can tend to decrease emotional stability intrinsically.  The fact is when anyone is going through emotional distress, who really wants to fuck?  Going about it the right way is best.  Woman must understand we like to talk.  Well, at least the ones willing to hold on to a relationship are.  Talking goes a long way which anyone in a successful relationship can vouch for. 

   Like I mentioned before it goes with saying that, yes, some men might be uninterested and may be looking elsewhere for nookie, but woman please make sure that is the case immediately.  Chances are if infidelity was the problem there would be some clear circumstances to gather from.  It is important to negate any suspicion and false ideas because many times that pressure makes it worse for your guy.  If he is just going through an emotional slump, could be work,school, family a bunch of stuff accusing or implying they are up to no good only increases the stress.  Men worry about many other things not related to anything sexual at all.

  If you aren't getting the normal sexual stimulus and activity you are used to go about understanding the situation the right way. That is if you are concerned and truly willing to work with the guy.  Because, just like men are said to be devious leeches and opportunists of poon, there are many women who will search for new sausage as well.